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Warning: This contains mature content. If you are uncomfortable with mentioning of Transgender or Transitioning or blunt language then please do not read any further. I am warning you, ahead of time, so no mean or hurtful comment please. This a very important and mature subject matter.

So, recently I have been looking into Transgender. It began because someone I know is going through a transition themselves. A male to female transitioning. I really wasn't well informed on the subject of Transgenders, so I decided to dive into their world.

I've read many blogs, watched personal videos on Youtube and even got some information from people here on DeviantART. Before I go any farther I just want to say this:

"To the people transitioning or feeling trapped in your own body,

I wish you only the best. Someday soon I hope you can look at yourself in the mirror, and see a reflection you are truly satisfied with. Nothing is worse then being trapped in a foreign body. What started off as a mistake, I can only hope gets corrected and offers you happiness."


Now as for myself, here we go.

As for gender identity, I have always been slightly gender neutral. I enjoy being a female, don't get me wrong, aside from that time of the month. But I always feel 100% comfortable dressing, acting and doing male-stereotyped activities. It's never bothered me.

I feel comfortable as a male or female. Though, before I realized my sexuality, I hated being confused for a male. That isn't the case anymore, happily. Now...when I was younger I did believe I was sealed inside a body that wasn't correct for me.

The reason being that I'm very small busted, and that's made me very self conscious. So to come bat that feeling of horrible self image, I often wished that my body would switch to being a male. In my dreams I could shed my imperfect female body and soar into a more correct skin

So it wasn't that I wanted to become the other gender per say, I just thought that since in my view my female body was lacking, I was supposed to be a male instead. Now, as time has passed and my body has changed, though I'm still small busted I don't feel that desire to change genders anymore.

Being a female is wonderful and I'm content with how I appear now. Sure, there are still things I'd like to fix, but I don't think my desire to change completely is there anymore. At least, not as strong as it was previously. I still love Crossplaying and being a Tomboy if you will.

As stated before I see myself as Gender Neutral. I am biologically a female but have the ability to switch my thoughts, and point of view into either gender. Though I have no desire to permanently change my gender, I know that some do.

My sincerest wish is that they get the chance to be who they feel they are inside. In their heart. Anyone who insults, mocks, torments or abuses someone just because they are Transgenders or Transitioning is a sick, demented, hurtful and pathetic human being.

They are still human. They don't hurt anyone or attack your way of life. So allow them to be the correct gender for themselves.

I realize that because I am not a Transgender or Transitioning that some people may think I have no right to speak my mind on this subject, but that's your problem. I offer my support to the LGBQST community and always will.
Written quickly, but I felt I needed to speak my part.
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Itti Featured By Owner Jun 18, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I realize that because I am not a Transgender or Transitioning that some people may think I have no right to speak my mind on this subject
Well screw them! I am really interested in what you have to say. In fact at the moment I am writing a book in which gender is a strong theme. I have some experiences of my own and I've read some personal experiences of people who fit under the "trans umbrella" but I am looking to hear as many viewpoints as possible in order to build realistic characters. Would you feel comfortable answering some questions about your experiences? We could do it by note, or by email. It doesn't need to be public. If you don't feel comfortable with me asking you any questions don't worry about it though :hug:
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Jun 18, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Of course, I don't mind answering questions at all. Email or note, both are fine. Whichever is more comfortable for you. :)
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Skye-Rhyder Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2012
:thumbsup: Thanks for the support!
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Nov 12, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
No problem. Thank you for reading :)
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Skye-Rhyder Featured By Owner Nov 13, 2012
:D

I like your tag.
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RainbowgirlLex Featured By Owner Dec 8, 2011
I am having the same problem as :iconpepamint: and I read your conversation (i hope you don't mind) and it really helped. By the way, I love your story. :)
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Dec 8, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't mind at all. I'm glad it was able to help you in some way. Thank you, and be well. :D
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Chigami Featured By Owner Jun 10, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you for writing this, it was a good read.
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Jun 10, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
You're welcome^^
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Pepamint Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011
I've been wishing--well more like desperately wanting to be a boy...never understood why until I read this. I thought my mind was just playing tricks on me.

still confused. :iconotlplz:
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm deeply happy that my simple writing was able to help you in some way. The mind is very confusing if you are not able to comprehend why it acts the way it does sometimes.

Still confused?
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Pepamint Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011
Just a little. Like, I don't fully understand why I so desperately want to be a boy...I know i did when I was younger, then I stopped and now it's starting up again. But much more then before.
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Since I don't know you personally I can't say for sure, but...maybe your mind feels like your body isn't correct? Could that be the reason? That maybe you don't feel that you were born into the right gender, and that's why you so desperately want to be a boy?
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Pepamint Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011
I guess...I mean I like to do guy things a lot. I'm not sure if that means anything though, since I still can act like a girl. I feel like I should be a guy, but I also feel like I should be a girl.
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
The best advice I can give you is to speak with a counselor. They should be able to offer you better insight into why you feel this way, and what suggestions might be the best for you :hug:
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Pepamint Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011
Okay, thank you :) I wasn't sure if councelors would know anything about this.
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
You just have to ask. There are also tons of sites on the internet and wonderful people giving advice on Youtube. You just have to look :D
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enyo-soldaat Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011  Hobbyist Writer
I'm the same way. Biologically a girl, and I can act like a girl, but I'm just as comfortable acting like a guy. My guyfriends have even started calling me a "bro"--which, when you think about it, is kinda an accomplishment. I like this 'Gender Neutral' term though.
I myself am a very, very thin girl (I'm 5' 5'' and only 107 pounds) without much hip, boob, or anything else that really defines a girl's shape. So i can see how anyone could confuse me for a boy.
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you for your comment. I believe you should be comfortable in your own skin. If it means changing your gender, dressing the way you want, or anything else. As long as you are content with your own body, no one else's stereotype should matter. :hug:
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shinedust Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011
I beleive instead of "come bat that feeling" you meant, "to combat that feeling," other than that I think you put your feelings down very eloquently. I always think it's awesome when people support others, especially the T in the GLBQST community, the T's have been getting so little love--even from their own community. My fiance is FTM pre-op & we've come to realize that you sort of get "kicked out" of the community if you don't have solid connections. It's sad--but that's life I guess.

Anyway, thanks for putting your kind words on dA.
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh, yes, thank you for correcting my mistake. I wrote this down very late at night. Anyway, I'm very sorry to hear that the T's are not getting the same respect and consideration from their own community. That's heartbreaking!

I wish you are your fiance the best! You will always have my support! :hug:
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shinedust Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011
:heart::glomp:
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AeraKira Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011
This was wonderful. And glad to know I'm not the only one who is gender neutral.
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you! :hug:
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AeraKira Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011
Of course~ >w<
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LiensriiLovely Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011
It'as funny that you brought this up. This is why:

About a couple of months ago I was out to dinner with a couple of my friends. Jean's a bisexual, Jody is straight, I'm straight and there was two guys with us, too. Their names were John and Trevor.
John and Trevor are most gay. Trevor, on the other hand likes to dress like a girl and act like a girl. John and Trevor used to date long ago.
Now, both John and Trevor broke up a while before we went to dinner because they just couldn't get along and this is one of the main reasons: John didn't like Trevor dressing like a girl.
I found that weird cause I (in my ignorance at that time) always though every gay may or lesbian wanted to be the opposite sex. I thought that's why they were homosexual. I thought all homosexuals wanted to be the opposite sex.
So I found it weird that John would get angry around Trevor (who we'd refer to as Teresa when she/he was dressed in his female alter-ego) when Trevor dressed as Teresa.
Teresa would have fake boobs, a pink wig on, fake eye lashes, make up, skinny jeans or a skirt, high heels...the whole thing. Now, Trevor had said he didn't really want to change into Teresa permanently.
When we were out to lunch that day Trevor was dressed as Teresa. John got mad. He stated that Eresa should be ashamed of himself/herself because there were children in the restaurant and he didn't like Teresa cross dressing in public.
This is what John said:
"Unless you get an operation to BE a woman you have to right to ACT like a woman" and he continued to say "He's wearing stuffing in a bra that isn't his" and so on.

I always thought that all homosexuals were okay with transsexuals because to me they're basically the same thing except the desire to change genders. That day just really opened my eyes to the whole homosexual community and how very different they really are to each other.
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
I see. Sadly, just because they may fit in similar groups, doesn't make everyone feel the same. So, I can understand the surprise when this happened. Thank you for sharing this. :)
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LiensriiLovely Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011
*** And by To right to be I mean no right to be. Sorry.
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im kinda same, ive always been gender neutral.... biologically, im a girl but sometimes i really wish i was a guy. :/
i hate my body, i have like HUGE hip bones n no boobs n it looks awful -.-'
i mostly dress like a guy n behave that way too, im quite a tomboy xD
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you for the comment.

Don't feel uncomfortable about your body, big hip bones don't look as bad as you might thank, my hips are fairly large and I'm thin framed. I've always been insecure about small boobs but people come in all sizes and you can always have them fixed if you want ;)

I'm still a Tomboy. Some days I just feel like being a boy, but I don't think I'm serious about changing anything. Who knows, that may change. For now I'm comfortable in my own skin, you should be as well :hug:
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exactly, everyone should be ^w^ :huggle:
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JewishLolita Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
It's truly sad that some people aren't. My heart goes out to them :(
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